First of all, I agree that you should find another doctor, he obviously can't be bothered with you.
I have found that my EM (the primary, early-onset form) has varied over the years. Over the last ten years it has gradually got worse and worse. As you have no doubt seen from all the other replies, EM varies wildly from person to person. There are those who get a partial or total remission of their symptoms for a while. Some people find that their EM tails off into something that is more annoying than awful.
I think there is a little bit of confusion over the current classifications of EM. As it stands at the moment, there are two forms: Primary (AKA idiopathic) and Secondary. There as subtypes within those classifications and there are some doctors suggesting that the classifications be changed but this hasn't happened. The two classifications are simply stating whether the EM is as a result of another disease (secondary) or occured on its own (primary). I have primary EM, although I do have other health problems but my EM is not a result of those.
Primary EM does not have to be inherited. There has been a lot of confusion on this issue recently, due to the studies on the SCN9A mutation which is the inherited EM form. Primary EM can also occur at any age, but the early-onset subtype always occurs before the age of 20. It is this subtype which contains IEM. Just because primary EM started before the age of 20 does not mean that it is IEM. Primary EM is generally due to a problem in the signalling of pain in the brain and the response of the system controlling bloodflow. It is possible to have the SCN9A form if your parents don't have it, but it is very rare, it would have to be a spontanous mutation.
Within secondary EM, there is a sub-set who have the thrombocytic form, which sometimes responds to aspirin. The aspirin is helping the EM by making the blood less "sticky", by reducing the hormone that makes the platelets in your blood (the cells that make bloodclots) stick together. This sticky blood affects the bloodflow which causes the EM. This can be due to different problems with the blood but is always secondary EM.
Other forms of secondary EM include those who have it due to Raynaud's disease and those who have EM as a result of MS.
Hormones are known to affect EM. Even my pain specialist (who tells me to "get out more") acknowledges that hormones affect the bloodflow so obviously they'll affect the EM! As healthy women get hot flushes at the time of the menopause there is obviously a powerful effect.
I hope that helps, I will no doubt have to post again, having realised that I didn't put something in. I often think that all the blood that is being used in my flares is taken away from my brain!